Relationships and Pain

How Pain Affects Relationships

Chronic pain impacts not just the person experiencing it, but their relationships as well. Roles may shift, activities change, and communication becomes more important than ever. Understanding these dynamics can help strengthen relationships.¹

Common Challenges²

Changes in roles and responsibilities
Difficulty with physical activities together
Impact on intimacy
Feeling misunderstood
Cancelling plans unpredictably
Financial stress
Caregiver burnout

Communication Tips

For the Person with Pain

Be specific about what you need
Share how pain affects you
Don't assume others understand
Express appreciation for support
Ask about their experience too

For Partners/Loved Ones

Ask how they're feeling
Believe their experience
Offer specific help
Maintain your own interests
Share your feelings too

Maintaining Connection³

Find activities you can still do together
Create new traditions
Focus on quality time, not quantity
Be flexible with plans
Date nights don't have to mean going out

Intimacy and Pain

Pain often affects physical intimacy
Communication is essential
Explore adaptations and timing
Focus on connection, not performance
Consider counseling if needed

When to Seek Help

Relationship significantly suffering
Communication breaking down
Resentment building
Couples therapy can help

References

Leonard MT, Cano A, Johansen AB. Chronic pain in a couples context: a review and integration of theoretical models and empirical evidence. J Pain. 2006;7(6):377-390.
West C, Usher K, Foster K, Stewart L. Chronic pain and the family: the experience of the partners of people living with chronic pain. J Clin Nurs. 2012;21(23-24):3352-3360.
Cano A, Barterian JA, Heller JB. Empathic and nonempathic interaction in chronic pain couples. Clin J Pain. 2008;24(8):678-684.